Isn't is strange, how you can be chugging along fine and dandy one moment and then the wheels fall off. You're then plunged into an abyss of self doubt, negativity and no forward movement.
I had one of those days a couple of weeks ago. Everything, and I mean everything went wrong. I missed my train, I lost part of a heel on my shoes, I didn't get the response I'd hoped for when I approached some business regarding some business development ideas. I then got locked in my (tiny) office for hours - and the air con was on overdrive, chilling me to the bone.
Get the idea?
The upshot was that I lost a whole day of my life in a big dark pit, catastophising, and thinking that the world was out to teach me a very mean lesson.
The silver lining was that I only missed one day, and managed to get back on track the next. I thought I'd share a few things that I learned from the experience:
* I acknowledged that my hormones probably contributed to this state (and I have never really been in tune with my body) so that is something to treat with care, and take into account so you don't push yourself at certain times.
* Catching yourself when you catastrophise helps you stop spiralling down into a deep dark hole - yep it's hard sometimes, but can be done.
* There are gifts, no matter how small, in every single day - if you're having a crappy day, you just really have to work to see them. Wrting them down might help!
* A little pamper and the odd bit of chocolate can do wonders - think of it as medicinal, not a guilty indulgence!
* Don't isolate yourself when you're down - get out there as much as possible and notice how life goes on, and smile at some babies! That is foolproof!
*Remember that you won't feel like this forever, so make the most of this sadness. What can you learn from it? Your triggers, warning signs, what makes a positive difference, etc
* Talk to someone positive - what a tonic that is! Don't talk to anyone that will feed the negative thoughts.
Emotional resilience info:
http://www.mentalhelp.net/poc/center_index.php?id=298
Catastrophising info:
http://psychcentral.com/lib/2007/what-is-catastrophizing/
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